Suppressing Emotions and Physical Illness

Gabor Maté has discussed the connection between suppressing emotions and physical illness, stating that the inability to express "negative" emotions, particularly anger, is a consistent characteristic in the lives of people with chronic illnesses. He suggests that repressing emotions like rage, grief, and panic can weaken the immune system.

Maté explains that people often suppress these feelings out of a fear that expressing them will threaten relationships, and since humans are wired for social connection, they will avoid anything that could lead to alienation. He sees emotional repression as an automatic survival strategy developed in response to early childhood experiences, rather than a conscious choice. He states that while one might not be to blame for the external conditions they grew up in, they can take responsibility for how they create their world with the mind.

He also emphasizes that being overly nice and accommodating can be a coping mechanism stemming from a fear of rejection and the deep-seated belief that one is "not good enough." This can lead to resentment and burnout, as individuals prioritize others' needs over their own. Maté's approach, which he calls "compassionate inquiry," encourages people to become more mindful and curious about their emotions, exploring where they might have come from without judgment. This process can lead to greater self-awareness and emotional freedom.

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